It’s been a long time…update!

So I haven’t updated this in a while.  Between Facebook, Twitter and myspace, I am spreading myself way too thin.  I’m slowly moving away from myspace.  After A.B., it does not hold the same interest for me like before.  Speaking of A.B., I have an update…

I actually heard from him!  After trying to call him in mid-April and getting a disconnect msg, I gave up on hearing from him ever again. That’s how some guys break up with women when they are cowards. Anyway, he sends me the following email in mid-April:

I’ve been holding back from saying what I have to say for a while now.
And even though you said “what’s done is done”, I still owe you the biggest apology.

I apologize for everything. Sincerely.

I’m not working yet and can’t pay for my phone so, don’t know when that’ll be back on. And I’m living with my uncle in Vegas. Won’t be in L.A. any more.

I WILL MOST DEFINITELY REACH OUT TO YOU WHEN I GET MY PHONE BECAUSE I NEVER WANTED US TO LOSE TOUCH. I JUST GOT CRABBY ON MY B-DAY AND SHOULD’VE CAME BACK TO YOU THAT NIGHT. Again, I apologize.

Huh? I was shocked.  So we traded emails for a short time and then he disappeared again only to resurface on myspace with a new page.  http://www.myspace.com/prettyboydarkskin

The joke of it is that he is using the same pics and the same description…it’s like I never existed!  He even has the same blogs up, describing him and such. (His pg is private now but it was public before) So in my anger, I shoot him an email, telling him what a liar he is.  He replies, saying he is back with his ex-wife and now in Utah!  Here’s the kicker and best part of the email:

I just saw that you are too needy and wouldn’t even let me go be with my family for a few hours on my b-day and I can’t put up with that kind of behavior. And I thank God that I didn’t because now i’m back with my family where I needed to be in the first place.

LOL!  Yes, I laughed so hard that I cried. Wow. Words cannot even explain how I feel.  Me, needy?  Ok, man. If that makes you feel better, please think that. So I have my closure. And I am not depressed over him anymore. Obviously, he is lying and back on myspace trolling for women.  I wish him the best.  Karma is a bitch.  So I don’t have to do a thing but be happy and live my life. He’ll get his all on his own. And I am thankful I know what a scam artist he is now instead of later down the road, after we moved in together or had been together a long time….I could have had children by this man, married him, etc.  I shudder at the thought.  I’m very lucky to get out now.

So now I just don’t want to date anyone! Men disgust me at the moment.  LOL!

As for everything else in my life, all is good and crazy.  I’m moving next week to my mom’s place for a few months. She is having surgery next month and needs some help around the house. Then in Sept, I’m out of NYC! I’m looking at Denver, Vegas still, CA, Seattle and Portland.  Who knows where I will end up?  I am very excited about it.  And I promise to post more!

My books at the moment

Instead of posting a music tracklist, I decided to post my booklist at the moment since I am so excited at what I am reading.

1. Soul Catcher – Kathy and Amy Eldon: I met Kathy on my flight to LAX last month and she is one of the most amazing people I have ever met.  She suggested I get her book and I am happy that I did.  It’s more of a journal but it helps you to find who you really are, which enables you to live the life you have always wanted to live.

2. The Secret – Rhonda Byrne: My friend Donna suggested this book and I think it’s a perfect companion to Soul Catcher.  In a nutshell, the belief is that if you put positive energy out there and ask the Universe for what you want, you will get it.  It’s all about faith and believing in yourself.

3. John W. Schaum Piano Course books A – C: The one positive thing A.B. left with me after our breakup was my desire to get back into music again.  I played the flute for 15 years and always wanted to learn piano.  So I am taking lessons.  I have also taken my flute out of my closet and dusted it off.  So thanks A.B.!

4. Deadly Night – Heather Graham: Donna lent me this book to read with the 2 that follow.  Since I have finished all the Sookie Stackhouse books by Charlaine Harris, I needed to start reading something else to keep me busy until Book 9 comes out next month.

5. Watchmen (graphic novel): My roomie has been after me to read this.  I wanted to wait until I saw the movie first before reading but who knows when I will get to the theater?  LOL!  So I started reading it.

What is your booklist of the moment?

I’m back!

I’m back from a great trip in Washington, DC.  DC is a great pedestrian-friendly city.  However, it was overrun with tourists this week since the Cherry Blossom Festival started last weekend.   

It amazes me how you can take the DC Metro to another state (Virginia) for under $5.  And it only costs $1.35 off-peak/$1.65 peak to get from Arlington-Crystal City to the main tourist sites in DC.  Considering that our fares here in NYC are going up next month to $2.50, I was a happy recessionista in DC.

I’m a native New Yorker, which means I don’t drive because I never had a need to.  So I am an expert at public transportation, lol.  I have to say that the DC Metro system is the best train system I have ever traveled on and that’s saying a lot since I have done the metro systems in Paris, London (the tube), Rome, Hong Kong, LA, San Francisco, Boston, etc. 

Hong Kong’s metro is so clean that you can eat off the floor and LA has a great system with trains running every few minutes but it’s limited and shuts down kind of early.  If they expand the system and to 24 hrs, they can rival any metro system in the world.  Boston is extensive but dated and sometimes plagued with delays like NYC.  Paris is overrun with stairs and hardly any elevators.  You have to remember to press that button for the doors to open and sometimes the signs are hard to read.  If you enter the wrong entrance, you have to get out and pay again, which sucks.  I really like San Fran’s BART system but DC has me in love!  If it wasn’t for the crazy humidity in the summers there, I would move to DC in a heartbeat.

Where do I start?

1. There are signs everywhere, not only telling you which side is which but the stops that come after the stop you’re at.

2. On the platform, there are TV screens telling you how many minutes until your train arrives.

3. As the train is arriving, there are lights along the edge of the platform that blink to let you know.

4. You can spot the Metro station anywhere because most of the stations either have a huge silver covering or a black pole with a M on it.

5. There are escalators and elevators everywhere.  I did not encounter a lot of stairs so I saw a lot of baby carriages on the Metro.  Very pedestrian-friendly.

6. During the summer, the Metro stations are COOL, not hot.  Take that, NYC subway! I’ll be thinking of DC as I swelter in the 110 degree heat on the 14th Street-Union Sq train platform of the #6 train this summer.

7. All of the stations and platforms are immaculate.  And I saw no rats in the tracks.  A definite plus. :0)

8. Transferring to other lines is a breeze.  Some lines run on the same track while others are just an escalator away.

9. Lastly, the staff are the nicest people.  There’s always someone stationed near the ticket machines, asking if anyone needs help.  There’s always someone at the turnstiles who greets you with a smile and is helpful if you have a travel question.  Shoot, one guy gave me a ticket pass!  But I am sure that was more than being a nice employee from the way he was smiling at me. 

Anyway, I felt safe on the Metro and got around with no problem.  It really made my trip even better since I was traveling by myself as my friend worked (he was there on a business trip).  This was like the 5th time I visited DC and the Metro continues to get better.  I’m going back at the end of the month and can’t wait.

The Things I Miss

I stole this from my girl Donna’s blog who stole it from her friend Sarah’s blog so you can say this is like one of those email forwards.  It’s just a list of things I miss and I wanted to share.

I miss….

1. Hanging with my dad

2. My goddaughter when she was between the ages of birth – 6 and spent most of her time with me.  She was my best friend and travel partner.  I can only hope I have instilled some great values in her. (she’s now 16)

3. High school (believe it or not)

4. My dear friend Joseph who relocated to Seattle and I lost contact with him.

5. TV One (my cable company doesn’t carry the channel)

6. Paying $5 for a movie matinee (I paid $12.50 last week in Manhattan to see 12 Rounds and am still shocked!)

7. My roller skates

8. Working (well, sometimes)

9. The beach

10. The old train cars in the NYC subway.  The new ones don’t seem right.

I’m sure I’ll have more to add later.  LOL

I’m a star!

I believe that God puts people in your path for a reason.  With that said, I met one of the most amazing people on my flight to LA from NYC last week.  This person gave me a whole perspective on life.  As my mom would say, she is the truth.

So I have been trading emails with her and she really has given me some guidance and things to think about concerning A.B. and my life in general.  Sometimes it takes a total stranger to enlighten you. 

Anyway, I’m in better spirits and think that things are going to get so much better.  So thank you, Kathy! 

In honor of my great mood, the song of the moment that I have been playing on repeat for the last 20 minutes is Prince’s “Baby, I’m a Star!”.  Yes, I’m a star. LOL

Today’s Tracklist

Here’s my music playlist for the day….happy music!  And this is music I grew up on…..I hear it and it reminds me of my mom in the kitchen, singing as she cooked.

1.  The Glow of Love – Change featuring Luther Vandross

2. The Second Time Around – Shalamar

3. Reflections – The Supremes

4. Candy – Cameo

5. Flashlight – Parliament

6. Love and Happiness – Al Green

7. Kiss and Say Goodbye – The Manhattans

8. Backstabbers – The O’Jays

9. You’re The One For Me – D-train

10. September – Earth, Wind & Fire

11. Shame – Evelyn Champagne King

12. Ain’t Nothin’ Going On But The Rent – Gwen Guthrie

13. Let No Man Put Asunder – First Choice

14. It’s The Same Old Song – The Temptations

15. Midnight Train to Georgia – Gladys Knight & The Pips

16. Get Down on It – Kool & The Gang

17. Never Too Much – Luther Vandross

18. Got To Give It Up (Part 1) – Marvin Gaye

19. Off The Wall – Michael Jackson

20. Tracks of My Tears – Smokey Robinson & The Miracles

Tomorrow, I have a 3 hour drive to DC with my friend so I think it’s going to be a dance music day.  He doesn’t like anything else.    LOL!

DC, here I come!

I’m heading to Washington, DC tomorrow for a few days.  I’m really looking forward to it.  I’m staying with a friend who is going on a business trip there so I don’t have to pay for a hotel, thank goodness.  I’m going to see a friend who I have not seen in 17 years!  She is now married with two small children, living in Arlington, VA.  I am so excited.  We went to high school together and kept in touch for a few years after graduation.  But then we lost touch.  We reconnected on Facebook of all places!

This trip will definitely take my mind off of A.B. and I know it’s going to be fun.  I love museums and DC is one of the museum capitals.  And if I have an Obama sighting, I will pass out!  I wonder if they still do White House tours?  Hmmm….*runs off to check*.

Just when I thought the random ridiculousness was over…

So I am sure all of you have seen the ShamWow commercials. 

Well, I just read that the guy who is the spokeperson in the commercial (Vince Shlomi) has been arrested for beating up a hooker because she bit his tongue and wouldn’t let go.  The Smoking Gun is one of the greatest websites ever put up.  I guess ShamWow can’t clean up every mess.  LOL

http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/years/2009/0327092sham1.html

Random Ridiculousness For The Weekend

I saw this over at bossip.com, which is one of my fave celebrity gossip sites. 

Some Asian female students from Yale put together their version of Beyonce’s “Single Ladies”.  Hysterical.  The girl second from the left with the curly chin length hair steals the show in my opinion…she just has that extra pep.  LOL!  The lyrics are at the bottom of this post….I’m still laughing.  Please read the verses in bold.  It’s my fave part of the song.  Enjoy!

Mixed Company of Yale
“Single Asians”

All the single Asians

All the single Asians
All the single Asians
All the single Asians
All the single Asians

Now put your hands up
Library and CDB
Test comin’ up next week.
You dropped a flask,
And now I’ve gotta ask
If you’re enough to be in a lab with me.

I need this grade.
I’ve never been late,
Because I live my life for med school.

I do bio-chem
On the weekends
You ain’t hardcore enough for me.

Cause if you like me
Then you shoulda got an A on it.
Cause if you like me
Then you shoulda got an A on it,
An A-minus
Ain’t the same as an A is it?
Cause if you like me
Then you shoulda got an A on it.

[lots of Oh's]

Let’s make some noise
For all the boys
Who have yellow fever.
I’ll be Lucy Liu
Or Sailor Moon
A geisha just for you.

At the restaurant
I’ll taste your sauce
And you can slurp my sushi.
I like it raw,
So bring it on,
And me love you long time.

[more Oh's...and now with an accent and subtitles]

We from Beijing,
We dry cleaning,
And practice Viorin.
We visit Yale,
We bring peace there,
And take picture at the Beinecke.

I make the rice,
(She make it nice)
Cause I’m in charge of Dim Sum!!!

I make Chai Tea.
I do Tai Chi.

Dedication to A.B.

Heart and Soul – T’Pau

More than an ocean,
Keeps us apart.
I feel a tearing in half of my heart.
A walk on the water,
Is all that I need.
But miracles are not happening.

You’re not even listening to me.
Leaving you ain’t easy now,
But loving you is the harder part.
You never want me for myself,
And I’ve needed you right from the very start.
Oh, won’t you stay and try to:

Give a little bit of heart and soul.
Give a little bit of love to grow.
Give a little bit of heart and soul,
And don’t you make me beg for love.
Give a sign ‘cos’ I need to know.
Give a little bit of heart and soul.

Now listen to me.
I wish that I was wrong,
But you don’t feel that way.
We drift apart with each passing day.
You never seem to notice any more.

Living in a fantasy,
There’s never any room to breath.
Hoping every waking hour,
You’ll turn around and say that we can stay.
Won’t you even try to:

Give a little bit of heart and soul.
Give a little bit of love to grow.
Give a little bit of heart and soul,
And don’t you make me beg for love.
Give a sign ‘cos’ I need to know.
Give a little bit of heart and soul.

Somehow I lost my way,
Looking to see something in your eyes.
But lover will never compromise.
There is the politics of life.

Give a little bit of heart and soul.
Give a little bit of love to grow.
Give a little bit of heart and soul,
And don’t you make me beg for love.
Give a sign ‘cos’ I need to know.
Give a little bit of heart and soul